When Good Goes Bad – Addicted to approval

We want and need to be complimented, celebrated and encouraged for our efforts. Ideally, positive feedback would fuel a healthy appreciation for our accomplishments and a deeper understanding of our gifts.  It’s wonderful when that happens but unfortunately it doesn’t always roll that way. Good goes bad. Applause can be intoxicating and often leaves us craving more. We live preoccupied with doing whatever we can do to earn another round.

Do you see signs of approval addiction in your life?

  • Healthy diet and exercise mutates into body image obsession.
  • A glowing evaluation leads to overtime hours and skewed priorities.
  • Affirmation feeds the need to be needed and you can’t say “no.”
  • The desire to be liked becomes your driving motivation.
  • You are dependent on approval for your happiness
  • You abandon your core values for fear of disapproval
  • Your joy is determined by what’s going on in someone else’s head.

It is easy to slip into approval addiction, but it’s not without risk. It can drive you to compromise, make you vulnerable to manipulation and lead to exhaustion. All risk aside, it robs the world of the real you – unique, beautiful YOU!

Stop approval addiction from snowballing and taking your life on a downhill ride by resting in the total acceptance of God’s unconditional love!  By grace you are accepted by God. He finds you charming, lovely and altogether agreeable. I know what you are thinking, “I am not always charming and agreeable.” It’s true, you’re not! I’m not either. But that is how the Father sees us. It’s what he made us to be. Imagine how wonderful life would be if you found your security in his love!

Weekly Challenge: Rest in the total acceptance of God’s unconditional love.

Comments: Have you ever been addicted to approval? How do you remind yourself of God’s grace and acceptance?

Ephesians 1:4-6  …He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved.